Diary of Insignificant Idiot

Kuch Mausam Sapne Lagte Hain

Thu, 22 May 2008 11:42:56 +0530

shabnam ke katron mein kaise khiza ke rang jhalakte hain

phoolo ke chehro se kushboo ke moti bikharte hain

hawao ki rawani se aati hai sargam kar rimjhim

jab pani ke lehron se voh atkheliya karti aati hai

pairon ke kitaron mein phir thandak bansane aati hai

jab suraj se mil kar sham suneheri ho jati hai

kuch mausam sapne lagte hain kuch mausam apne lagte hain

par dost mile tum jaisa to sub mausam sache lagte hain

zindgi ki tanha lehron mein jo dosti ke moti pirote hain

voh phoolon ki traha dil ki rahon ko mehkate hain

Fascinating Food Facts

Thu, 15 May 2008 11:37:02 +0530

These photographs, shot by Peter Menzel from the book "Hungry Planet," were part of a previous Time Magazine story I posted about science confirming the secret key to weight loss. They didn't include these photos in their article at the time, and only printed four of them in the magazine. This is a fascinating look at what's on people's dinner tables across the globe, and is a telling visual of why the health of the Western world is in rapid decline from all our prepackaged, chemically processed and sugar-laden goods, and how much we're actually paying for the privilege...
Chad: The Aboubakar family of Breidjing Camp Food expenditure for one week: 685 CFA Francs or $1.23 Favorite foods: soup with fresh sheep meat
JAPAN: The Ukita family of Kodaira City Food expenditure for one week: 37,699 Yen or $317.25 Favorite foods: sashimi, fruit, cake, potato chips
Italy: The Manzo family of Sicily Food expenditure for one week: 214.36 Euros or $260.11 Favorite foods: fish, pasta with ragu, hot dogs, frozen fish sticks
Kuwait: The Al Haggan family of Kuwait City Food expenditure for one week: 63.63 dinar or $221.45 Family recipe: Chicken biryani with basmati rice
United States: The Revis family of North Carolina Food expenditure for one week: $341.98 Favorite foods: spaghetti, potatoes, sesame chicken	l
Mexico: The Casales family of Cuernavaca Food expenditure for one week: 1,862.78 Mexican Pesos or $189.09 Favorite foods: pizza, crab, pasta, chicken
China: The Dong family of Beijing Food expenditure for one week: 1,233.76 Yuan or $155.06 Favorite foods: fried shredded pork with sweet and sour sauce
Poland: The Sobczynscy family of Konstancin-Jeziorna Food expenditure for one week: 582.48 Zlotys or $151.27 Family recipe: Pig's knuckles with carrots, celery and parsnips
Egypt: The Ahmed family of Cairo Food expenditure for one week: 387.85 Egyptian Pounds or $68.53 Family recipe: Okra and mutton	l
Ecuador: The Ayme family of Tingo Food expenditure for one week: $31.55 Family recipe: Potato soup with cabbage	l
Mongolia: The Batsuuri family of Ulaanbaatar Food expenditure for one week: 41,985.85 togrogs or $40.02 Family recipe: Mutton dumplings	l
Bhutan: The Namgay family of Shingkhey Village Food expenditure for one week: 224.93 ngultrum or $5.03 Family recipe: Mushroom, cheese and pork
Germany: The Melander family of Bargteheide Food expenditure for one week: 375.39 Euros or $500.07 Favorite foods: fried potatoes with onions, bacon and herring, fried noodles with eggs and cheese, pizza, vanilla pudding
Great Britain: The Bainton family of Cllingbourne Ducis Food expenditure for one week: 155.54 British Pounds or $253.15 Favorite foods: avocado, mayonnaise sandwich, prawn cocktail, chocolate fudge cake with cream
United States: The Caven family of California Food expenditure for one week: $159.18 Favorite foods: beef stew, berry yogurt sundae, clam chowder, ice cream

"Parents" Thought of the day with sanzeevlogy

Wed, 07 May 2008 11:07:28 +0530

"If there is something that we wish to change in our children, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves." -Carl Jung (1875-1961)"How true Daddy"s words were when he said: "All children must look after their own upbringing." Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person"s character lies in their own hands." -Anne Frank (1929-1945)

We could place blame, point fingers, wallow in pain from all the things that "should" have been "if only" blah blah blah. But there comes a time when we must stand on our own two feet and recognize that we create our own future. We create our own present. We have choices to make every day. Look within. Find that strength and move on.

All relationships are a mirror for us. Is there something we want to change about our parents? Our friends? Our spouses, or ex-spouses? Maybe we need to see if that is something we can change in ourselves. We have the relationships that we have so that we can learn more about ourselves. We don"t always want to admit it, but we learn something even from the people who we see as a negative influence in our lives. And when we learn the lesson that negative turns into a big positive!

-Insignificant
Idiot

Future and Sanzeevlogy

Sun, 04 May 2008 09:53:30 +0530

"If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principles, we can greet the future and the transformation we are undergoing with the understanding that we do not know enough to be pessimistic."

-Hazel Henderson (1981)

One of my favorite books of all time is Martin Seligman"s "Learned Optimism." It is a classic, and it makes so much sense. The subtitle is "How to Change Your Mind and Your Life." It"s just a matter of looking at things, including the future, differently. It can make a huge difference in how we experience things.

-Insignificant Idiot

"The future is made of the same stuff as the present."

-Simone Weil, 1968

It's so amazing how true this is. So many times I meet people and our experiences in life have been so similar - it's almost like we're all living the same life - maybe in different places, or different times, but the lessons we learn are universal. And the lessons don't change. We've heard them time and time again, it's just up to us to assimilate them into our lives until we "get it."

-Insignificant Idiot

Insignificant Idiot n Emily Dickson

Mon, 28 Apr 2008 07:49:24 +0530

Immortality "This World is not Conclusion.
A Sequel stands beyond -
Invisible, as Music -
But positive, as Sound."
-Emily Dickinson (1862)
I just love this! We close our eyes and it is there,
beautiful music - undeniable.
It"s that faith that even though
we can"t see something, it exists. It is within it,
it is all around us
-Sanzeev Yadav

If you Are.......

Wed, 23 Apr 2008 09:33:19 +0530

"The voice of Nature loudly cries, And many a message from the skies, That something in us never dies."
"The need to find meaning in the universe is as real as the need for trust and for love, for relations with other human beings."
:-~Insignificant Idiot~~:

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If you Are............

MARRIED
Love is not about "it"s your fault",
but "I"m sorry", not "where are you"
but "I"m right here", not "how could you"
but "I understand", not "I wish you were",
but "I"m thankful you are."

To My Friends Who Are............

ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years
spent together but how good you are for each other.

To My Friends Who Are............

NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn"t about becoming somebody else"s
"perfect person."
It"s about finding someone who helps you become
the best person you can be.

To My Friends Who Are............

HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want
and cut as deep as you allow them to go.
The challenge is not how to survive heartbreaks
but to learn from them.

To My Friends Who Are............

NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don"t stumble,
be consistent but not too persistent,
share and never be unfair,
understand and try not to demand,
and get hurt but never keep the pain.

To My Friends Who Are............

SEARCHING
True love cannot be found where it does not
truly exist, nor can it be hidden where
it truly does.
Love is magic. The more we hide it, the more it
shows; the more you suppress it,
the more it grows.

To My Friends Who Are............

PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say I love if you don"t care.
Never talk about feelings if they aren"t there.
Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart.
Never look in the eye when what you do is lie.
The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to
let her fall in love when he doesn"t intend
to catch her fall.

To My Friends Who Are............

POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy
with someone else but it"s more painful to
know that the one you love is unhappy with you.

To My Friends Who Are............

AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone.
It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you.
But love hurts the most when the person you love
has no idea how you feel.

To My Friends Who Are............

STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone
who means a lot to you, only to find out in
the end that it was never bound to be
and we just have to let go.

To My Friends Who Are............

SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it,
the more it eludes you. But if you just
let it fly, it would come to you when
you least expect it.
Love can make you happy but often times it hurts,
but love"s only special when you give it to
someone who is worth it.
So take your time and choose the best.

To My Friends Who Are...........

IN THEIR TEENS
Now you are in a very important stage in your life.
Make or break of your future almost decided in this stage.
So concentrate on your studies only.
Now your only target is your bright future.
infatuations are always illusions,
Like oasis in the desert.
Only the stronger youth can bring peace to this world,
Not the addicted youth.

The shortest distance between a problem
and a solution is the distance between
your knees and the floor in prayer.

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Top 25 Best Ghazals Of Jagjit Singh

Thu, 17 Apr 2008 09:53:40 +0530

"Life is not meaningful. unless it is serving an end beyond itself; unless if is of value to someone else"
:-~Insignificant Idiot~~:

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Here is a list of 25 of my favorite Jagjit Singh Ghazals in alphabetical order. Please note that these are Jagjit Singh Ghazals therefore neither duets nor nazms are included. It started with 10 Ghazals then quickly expanded to 20 and then I had to finally stop myself at 25. I didn't knew I was such an ardent Jagjit Singh fan. Obviously this is a very a personal listing and has developed over a long period of time. Some Ghazals I loved 5 years ago do not even figure here.

Now, have you had a chance to listen to all these Ghazals? Did I miss out on one of your absoulte favorites? Please share your views on this. If you haven't listened to a Ghazal but are interested, please drop me a comment and I will try to upload the audio. Links to lyrics will be added over time.

aankhoN meN jal rahaa hai bujhtaa nahiiN dhuaaN
ai Khudaa ret ke sehraa ko samandar kar de
aap aaye janaab barsoN meN
baaziichaa-e-atfaal hai duniyaa mere aage
daastaan-e-Gham-e-dil unko sunaayii na gayii
dhuup meN niklo ghaTaaoN meN nahaa kar dekho
hazaaroN KhvaaisheN aisii ke har Khvaaish pe dam nikle
kisii kaa yuuN to kaun hu'aa umr bhar phir bhii
kisko qaatil maiN kahuuN kisko masiihaa samjhuuN
na keh saaqii bahaar aane ke din haiN
nazar nazar se milaa kar sharaab piite haiN
pareshaaN raat saarii hai sitaaroN tum to so jaao
phir kuch is dil ko beqaraarii hai
phir usii raahguzar par shaayad
roshan jamaal-e-yaar se hai anjuman tamaam
sadmaa to hai mujhe bhii ke tujhse judaa huuN maiN
saraktii jaaye hai ruKh se naqaab aahistaa aahistaa
shaam se aaNkh meN namii sii hai
shaayad maiN zindagii kii saher le ke aa gayaa
sholaa huuN bhaRakne kii guzaarish nahiiN kartaa
tujhse ruKhsat kii vo shaam-e-ashk-afshaaN haaye haaye
tum itnaa jo muskuraa rahe ho
tumko dekhaa to ye Khayaal aayaa
tum nahiiN Gham nahiiN sharaab nahiiN
vo Khat ke purze uRaa rahaa thaa

I hate to exclude these Ghazals but unfortunately there can be only 25 Ghazals in a list of 25.

abhii vo kamsin ubhar rahaa abhii hai us par shabaab aadhaa
dil-e-naadaaN tujhe hu'aa kyaa hai
dost ban bane ke mile mujhko miTaane vaale
ko'ii chaudaviiN raat kaa chaand ban kar tumhaare tasavvur meN aayaa to hogaa
Thukraao ab ke mujhe pyaar karo maiN nashe meN huuN

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Letter from me to my life

Thu, 10 Apr 2008 08:41:05 +0530

"Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell."

From Insignificant Idiot (Sanzeev) to my love (sweetie)

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This is a letter from me to my love (Sweetie)

To attempt to describe the things you do

In this letter I'd like to say

That I truly love you in each and every way

I'd also like to mention that you make me feel complete

With you in my life there is nothing I can't defeat

I did want to tell you that I cherish every second

And without you in my life I'd certainly perish

I hope this letter from me to you

Explains exactly how I feel about you

I hope it gives you an accurate meaning

Of exactly what it is I'm feeling

I love you!!

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why you should lie to yourself..??

Tue, 01 Apr 2008 09:38:53 +0530

The Endorsement: Self-Delusion
Whoever said honesty is the best policy needed a reality check.

why you should lie to yourself.

why you should lie to yourself ?

Of all the overrated things in the world � sex on the beach, John Updike � the most overrated is the Truth. The Truth has its uses, yes, but it should be approached with extreme caution. Especially when dealing with self-knowledge, the Truth can be a soul-sapping drag.

My love of delusion crystallized when I learned about a psychological theory called depressive realism. This holds that the people with the most accurate view of the world are the clinically depressed. Studies show they have a correct perception of how much they control the outcome of events � namely, very little. (Not all scientists buy this theory; but they're probably just deluded.)

More recently, I read the article in this very magazine about Dennis Kucinich. The man actually believes he's going to be president someday. Which is an astounding feat of self-delusion � and, I'm convinced, the only thing that keeps him going.

Self-delusion is not a defense mechanism or coping technique. It's the most human thing we have. It's faith, existential courage, essential to mixing a decent drink, loving our spouse, writing a sentence. It's what separates us from the animals and the boring.

I'm not just advocating positive thinking; I'm advocating a willing suspension of reality. Irrational exuberance. It's not a matter of seeing the glass as half full or half empty. In reality, the glass is usually 5 percent full and 95 percent empty. But you have to force yourself to believe that it's half full so that you can engage and try to solve problems and bring the real percentage up to 10. Because otherwise it'd drop down to zero, and Kucinich probably would have spent his life as a Christmas elf at Macy's.

Embracing this idea has made my life infinitely better. Recently, I had to give a speech at a conference. The speaker before me was 82-year-old comedian Jonathan Winters. The emcee introduced Winters as the best thing to happen to comedy since Aristophanes. He got two standing ovations and a video tribute. He approached the podium using a cane. He made some cunnilingus jokes. Objectively, an octogenarian comic legend making oral-sex jokes is impossible to follow. And if I had accepted reality, I would have faked an allergic reaction and skipped my speech.

Instead, I made the conscious decision to delude myself. I told myself that the crowd would find me just as entertaining as Winters. And because of this confidence � 100 percent manufactured as it was � I didn't bomb. There were no standing ovations, but I wasn't pulled off with a cane.

We need this false bravado more than ever. Deep down, I believe planet Earth is in the worst shape in human history. I really do think that we are living in the End Times. I believe there's no way to stop H-bombs from shrinking down to the size of fingernails or prevent global warming that will turn Boise, Idaho, into a coastal city. But I'm going to remain in denial and do what I can. It's the only slim chance we have of saving this doomed � make that resilient � world.

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This will continue...........

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Fri, 21 Mar 2008 16:40:37 +0530

Live in Relationship is good or bad ?

I just read a blog on Live in Relationship, which very rightly had drawn attention of rediffiland Members and attracted comments . I observed very strong resentment to "live in relationship" and it did not look like due to conservative Indian outlook. I made some comments but was obviously
not appreciated because author had kind of made up his mind about How Live in realtionship should be viewed by the Society.

" Live in relationship " is an individual choice be it USA,Europe or India . I have no difficulty with two adults deciding to live together with whatever objective/motive they might have. However, the consequences certainly their. Some obviously did not end up very happily and it has gone upto supremem Court. I would not even comment on individual choice,values till some trying to make it an " institution " . Give it any name - it has also not become an Institution in the West. I have some knowledge about USA and I think the Society there too is divided.

Bad marriages and broken homes have been used as the reason to justify " Live in relationship" . I do not know why the logic used did sound like one of the former Indian Cricket Team Selector talking about importance of "Match Practice" ,though I do not entirely agree with him.As Match practice is not a substitute for Net practice and Cricketing skills and technique," Live in Relationship " is not a substitute for values, empathy, understanding of others and ability to adjust.

It appeared author of the blog did not care to know how many live in relationships culminated in successful marriage, long and happy married life. The conclusion that two good individuals with values stuck with a bad marriage did sound very strange. In the old days, there was arranged marriages and no one ever imagined of "match Practice" prior to Grand Final.

I am sure people who think and agree that bad marriages, broken homes or dowry deaths or abuse and exploitation does not make the Institution of Marriage bad or does justify " Live in Relationship" as a precaution to ensure "good marriages or successful marriages".

I have known many reasons ( all one can imagine ) for a broken marriage,bad marriages. Some affected persons some times say that he or she did not know the other person. Today , in some recent arranged marriage, I was told the girl flew in to Mumbai to spend about 8 -10 days to get to know each other. It might be "fashionable" ( parents from both sides did talk about it indirectly inhinting that they are a bit more evolved ) but I am not sure about its real utility in knowing each other.

I think these are individual choices or judgement with very little scope for generalizing it or making a check list. I believe this the same question most employers face while recruiting people. Inspite of many HR Consultants and Hr Professionals employed by the Corporations, still one finds high rate of attrition ( can we draw a simile with high rate divorce ). The causes may also be similar. I am not an expert,I am not qualified but real life experience says the Unrealistic expectation is at the root cause of both. It certainly needs research and debates with open mind.

Another common cause is "There is no rule in this World which says every thing will be to your liking" This unrealistic belief or expectation is the root cause of "disappointments or dissatisfaction " which causes break ups in relationship resulting in divorce or attrition`. Corporate World has used "match parctice" as means to know the prospective employees by having them as trainees or apprentice but nost will agree that the system by itself did not ensure any thing. Similarly match practice ( Live in Relationship ) is not a guarantee for a successful marriage. Also think about the boys and Girls ( I can assure it will mostly girls) who get rejected after a "live in relationship".

I read through the blog as well as comments. I did see it pronounced issue - what will happen to the ones get rejected. I also have another suspicion that a rejected case is likely to be rejected again . It is the same mind set we have when the prospective candidate tells that he has been trying for a job but has been rejected. I am sorry, I have seen qualified HR professionals trying to figure out why he or she has been rejected instead concentrating on finding out skills or qualities of a candidate. I am afraid, some will end up as candidates for "shacking up ". I have no difficulty with that too ,it is again a personal choice how he or she wants do with life.

I am quite liberal but I have problems with people who want to institutionalize what should really be a purely personal choice.

I thought it is probably not correct to debate on some one's blog space. It may not be viewed very kindly and if I insist on my views will attract not so kind comments. There has been some unpleasantness already. I thought let me put my thoughts and views as blog,though may not be read by too many.

Let me sum up by saying that there is need to understand the "institution of marriage" and the responsibilities which go with it and have respect. It is imperative that people must have mutual respect and ensure that dignities are not abused.

In short if marriages fail or get sour,my personal view is they do not fail due to lack of "match Practice", there are a few dozen reasons and it is not essential to make "match practice" mandatory. Live relationship can stay as individual choices like people make not so legitimate money and even flaunt. I wish them luck !

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